Subject: Re: QUERY: What Are The Practical Benefits of Joining An "S.E.A.xx."?
From: Scott Maxwell <smaxwell(--nospam--at)engin.umich.edu>
Date: Tue, 23 Jan 2001 23:18:58 -0500 (EST)
I can definitely empathize. I have affectionately referred to myself as
"anti-social" <grin>. I am definitely the same type of person, but I am
getting better. It used to be that I would be the person sitting in the
corner, all by myself. I am getting to be much better at the whole
hob-nobbing game. Don't get me wrong...I am not some smooth talking,
silver tongue devil...at least not yet <grin>. I still tend to listen
more than talk, but I do know most of the "movers and shakers" in the
structural community here in the Detroit area.
I can only advise to take the plunge. The more you do something, the
better you will become at it!!
On Tue, 23 Jan 2001, Bill Polhemus wrote:
> Scott Maxwell wrote:
> > Certainly, one of the reasons most people think of is the "social benefit"
> > (what you affectionately referred to as "hob-nob"ing). You seem to attach
> > a "negative" (that is too strong of a phrase but it is the best that I can
> > come up with at the moment) connotation to that idea. You seem to look at
> > it a purely socializing just for socializing which then takes time away
> > from thing that you consider more important.
> No, no, not at all. That is NOT what I meant to convey. As I said, I've NEVER
> been much of a "joiner". It isn't that I think "hob-nobbing" is a "bad thing" or
> a "waste of time", but simply that I don't DO it very well!
> I have always been a person whose more comfortable by myself, or with small
> groups of trusted friends, than in a group setting, no matter what the function.
> It's just my nature.
> Believe me, my life would be MUCH easier if it were otherwise. It is the
> "hob-nobbers" of the world who have the most opportunities, who can make their
> mark on their world. The "loners", contrary to the fictional stereotype,
> typically doesn't go as far.
> So when I said "hob-nobbing", I simply meant "mixing and mingling with others",
> even if we have things in common such as a profession.
> And I find your mention of the "networking" aspects to be compelling. Believe
> me, I think this is a VERY useful "pep talk". I just want to make sure that
> others feel, as Stan does, that there are concrete benefits simply because my
> time is so precious.